you’ve got your head in the clouds
i’ve had a couple people ask for prints of this so it’s on my redbubble now :•)
2021 really said yes to books with:
- sports sapphics,
- time traveling wlw,
- murderous sapphics + dorian gray
- bi women dating soft boys,
- fake dating desi lesbians,
- great gatsby retellings with queer asian girls,
- f/f slavic enemies to lovers,
- gay women + peter pan retellings,
- grumpy/sunshine + lesbians of color,
- bisexual con artists & trauma recovery,
- queer tsoa inspired fantsay set in china
(plus some more I found in the reblogs!)
Does anybody else find it slightly problematic that Homer used the “bury your gays” trope in The Iliad?
Taking T didn't ruin my singing voice, and frankly I'm sick of folks panicking and ignoring the fact that cis boys go through two or three years where their voices are fluctuating and cracking and changing before they settle.
Your voice isn't ruined, it's changing.
If you want to make that transition easier, you gotta keep using it. Sing! Even if your voice cracks in goofy ways. Even if you have trouble placing your voice comfortably. It gets easier, I promise. Get a voice teacher (if you can) who has experience with vocal changes for pubescent cis boys if it's really making you anxious or if you're having a hard time controlling it.
To be clear, I'm not trying to be dismissive of people's emotions, nor am I trying to tell you about your own experience. If you feel something intensely, that's fair and valid. Respectfully, you should unpack that with a therapist or supportive peers.
However, when one of the main TERF tactics against transmascs is convincing trans guys that T makes you Worse in a Variety of Ways, and that you'll be ruining your body if you take it, I am EXTREMELY dubious of how many people online report any part of their body being ruined by T. Sounds suspiciously like TERF shit. And, yes, even Actual Trans People can play into TERF talking points. I'm begging y'all to stop the rampant fearmongering surrounding T.
So, after nearly a year being on T, I'm here to say that YES my voice cracks and YES my voice fluctuates and YES sometimes it feels like I have to relearn everything I knew about being a vocalist, but goddamn if I won't have fun figuring it all out, because I know this is just one stage of the transition I'm going through, and it's worth it.
thank you so much for this. i’m a professional singer who’s wanting to go on t but it’s IMPOSSIBLE to talk about it bc even other trans men and mascs keep peddling this “t ruins your voice you’ll have no range and will never be able to sing again” garbage. and it’s infuriating because i’ll make posts asking specifically people who are singers what their experience was, and people will show up to fearmonger about how their voice is ruined when they themselves admit they didn’t sing before t, didn’t have any training during the transition, and haven’t done much singing afterward.
and when i try to point out that i know several trans men who are still professional singers after transitioning people are always like “what makes you think you’ll be one of the lucky ones?” what makes you think i won’t????? i have over a decade of training and performance experience under my belt as well as teaching experience, which requires knowledge of the anatomy of changing voices. and tbh i’m furious that i was put off t for so many years because i was told i would have to give up singing when apparently what’s more likely is that i’ll just have to take some time off while my voice changes to retrain.
basically, there’s a shit ton of fearmongering around “t voice” and it’s kept me from going on t for literal years when t could save my life and i’m very mad about that.
There are multiple articles out there and all of them say going on T as a singer is safe, as long as you train your voice to change with you.
Men and women aren't two completely different species. It's not like a trans guy experiencing voice crack is something cis boys don't go through. Just because afab teenagers don't experience it, doesn't mean it's catastrophic for a trans guy.
Cis boys have the same issue and usually stop singing for a while, but continue singing after.
(I love this thread. All the educators are really careful and use affirming language for the kids they teach. A lot of them also say boys can be treated very harshly during this period, and it's probably very sudden for the kid. The belief (I fear) is that he's "becoming a man" so he shouldn't be helped or treated kindly anymore.
Never ever call it the voice "breaking". That implies that there is something wrong with the voice, when it is of course an absolutely natural transition. We call it the vocal transition or change.
I think this is cis women panicking because they'd never want to change their voice and feel the need to project on us, like always. And then it spreads to transmasc circles.
(glad you appreciated the post because I reblogged it specifically for you and that post you made about this issue a while ago, mwah)
